That ’ s really code for , “ I want to get his ass on my page .”

Now , you can laugh ! We do this ALL the time , right ?

WHY do we do this ? That ’ s an excellent question .

1 . It ’ s NOT because you picked wrong . 2 . It ’ s NOT because you are too different . 3 . It ’ s NOT because they are stubborn or you are stubborn . 4 . It ’ s NOT because of any of the bullshit that we are told .

The REASON we fall into the “ My Way ” vs “ Your Way ” trap is because we never learned the SKILL SET to collaborate in a marriage .

Think back to 50 years ago . Did a woman need to ask her husband for alignment on how to raise children ? Did a man need to ask his wife for alignment on what he should do about his work or the money ? No !

Until a few decades ago , spouses did not need to ALIGN with each other . It was more of a “ what I say goes ” kind of world . That ’ s all that ’ s been modeled to us .

But now , it ’ s not that way . We all have dreams for our family ! We all want to weigh in . There are now TWO people in a marriage who both want to be the one who says “ MY WAY .”

No one ever taught us how to collaborate in marriage . We were just taught to COMPROMISE ( this time YOU get Your Way and next time your spouse gets His Way ).