Maybe you ’ ve even started doubting your relationship . After all , if you really loved each other , you would see eye to eye , right ?

No ! You are experiencing a predictable relationship dynamic that Paul and I call The Accidental Alignment Predicament™ . The good news is , it ’ s easy to identify and if you ’ re willing to put in the work , simple to fix .

It ’ s super common . We fall in love , we start building a life , and we have this “ Invisible Assumption ” that we ’ re going to “ see things the same way .”

We think , “ We fell in love , so we ’ re going to see parenting the same way ” ( don ’ t laugh too hard ). Honestly , before we have kids , it usually doesn ’ t occur to us that we won ’ t .

Then one day , something flies out of our partner ’ s mouth to one of our kids and we FLIP out and yell , “ Don ’ t talk to Johnny that way , you ’ ll scar him for life !”

FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

What you ’ re experiencing is the Accidental Alignment Predicament — you think you ’ re going to see things the same way … right up until you don ’ t .

So , what do most of us do ?

We go into the “ My Way ” vs “ Your Way ” mode , trying to do it the way we think is right . Often people come to me and say “ Stacey , I really want my husband and I to get on the same page in our parenting ( or money or anything ), can you help me ?”