9 . STAY CURIOUS . Ask yourself and the Universe the hard questions . What is it that I want in my life What did I use to enjoy ? What am I afraid of and why ? What if this is happening for me instead of to me ? What would I want to do if there were no downsides or limitations ?
10 . RELEASE COMPARISON . We are all different . Everyone grieves their losses at different intensities and for differing lengths of time . Each loss is unique , too . Comparing contributes nothing positive to your life . It makes you feel like you ’ re not moving fast enough , grieving deeply enough , or the other person is in the same situation .