Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) April/May 2017 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 74

down to her so as not to fight her. Beth was so amazed that she never SAW it that way before. She was ready for the HOW!

Both Amy and Beth had nearly the same dynamic going on at home. But on that day, these two women were on two very different paths forward. Could you feel it?

Amy was stead-fast in her perspective that her husband was rude and treating her insignificantly. She was blaming him and waiting for him to change. I’ m sure, like all of us, you know how crappy that feels.

Beth, on the other hand, had a new understanding of one of the differences between masculine and feminine that“ made sense” of a dynamic that had caused her pain for years! This aha was a HUGE relief for her! And ultimately, it helped her feel her heartfelt compassion for herself and her husband and the perpetual-misunderstanding that got them to where they were.

Could you FEEL how ready Beth was for a tool or strategy that she could put in place to shift things with her husband?

That’ s why I say, you must experience a shift in how you SEE things before you can implement the tools and strategies that really work!

Without this shift in perspective, Beth might have approached her hubby with some kind of“ communication strategy” layered on top of 7 years of“ blame and upset” energy. But after experiencing this SHIFT, Beth can approach her husband with a new-found energy of empowerment, understanding and hope!

Once you learn to see men, women and relationships with new eyes you are ready to use the tools and strategies in the steps to come!

Besides, it’ s such a HUGE relief to understand your partner( and yourself) in a way you never have before.

I mean it. Today, you may be trapped in a pattern of evaluating everything your husband does through your filter of what YOU would have done / said / felt. But he’ s not a woman. He doesn’ t think / feel / process or act the same way that we do. So when you put him through YOUR filter, he’ s always going to look like a woman having bad behavior because he’ s not wired to do things the way we are.

He is NOT a BAD GIRL! He’ s a DUDE!

I bet you never thought you were going to read that line in a magazine today! Haha!

Seriously, it’ s such a tragedy that growing up NO ONE gave us the real truth about how different men and women are … and how to APPRECIATE the differences we bring to each other, instead of judging each other for being so different.

There’ s so much unnecessary pain in relationship today, simply because women and men don’ t understand and appreciate our differences.