Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) April/May 2017 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 73
Without shifting your perspective, you can try
to use the tools and strategies that I can teach
you, but you would be EFFORTING, pushing
and trying to have GOOD behavior to create a
shift, and that doesn’t last long term.
Plus, have you ever had someone “say”
something really nice to you with a smile on their
face but their energy was screaming “I’m just
pretending to be nice and smile…I’m pissed!”
Yeah, it’s the same for your partner. When
you TRY to say the right thing, but your
energy is screaming “I’m so f’in frustrated
with this”, they “hear” your energy loud and
clear. The tools won’t work if you are still
stuck in blame.
Everyone can see through your fake smile
and nice words, they can feel your energy.
So, what’s the solution? Well, luckily for you,
the REAL solution is to actually SHIFT how
you feel about what’s going on! I say “lucky”
because when you shift how you feel about
it, you will actually FEEL the peace and
happiness from doing this work. And then
the tools and strategies that you implement
will be effective in creating change!
So, at this point you may be wondering, “How
do I shift my perspective?” Great question.
This is part of what my husband Paul and I
refer to as “doing the work”. For Step Two of
our system, Shifting, it’s all about learning
how to SEE your relationship differently, see
men differently, see women differently, and
see yourself differently!
I’ll give you an example.
Recently, a woman going through a
challenging time in her marriage, posted in
our Facebook Community about a struggle
she was having (Let’s call her Amy). Amy
described a very common pattern where
her husband would come home from work,
and when she would try to talk to him about
the important things that were going on,
he wouldn’t respond. Amy would escalate
her demand to talk, follow him, try to ask
a different way… no response. She was
asking for our help because she felt like she
could no longer tolerate his rudeness and
how unimportant she was.
Within the same week, one of the students
in our program posted about a very similar
scenario, but after going through a few of
our modules, and experiencing a shift in
her perspective, her post was very different.
(Let’s call her Beth)
As Beth described it, she had an A-ha
moment. Thanks to understanding some of the
differences between masculine and feminine
energy, she now realized that all those years
that her husband would shut her out and not
respond to her when she was challenging
him, Beth had NO idea that SHE was the one
that was triggering him to close off.
Beth was celebrating that she could now
SEE so clearly, that when SHE was in
her masculine energy and confronted her
husband about things that they needed to
talk about, she was triggering him to shut
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IF THERE’S ONE
THING I KNOW
FOR SURE, UNTIL
YOU SHIFT YOUR
PERSPECTIVE,
NOTHING CAN
CHANGE FOR YOU!