The reason most people can ’ t fix their sex problem is because they don ’ t understand that a sex problem is rarely a sex problem , so it cannot be solved with a sex solution . Sex is a symptom of the health of your relationship . When sex fizzles or stops , the cause is in your relationship , not the sex .

In a long-term relationship , getting into bed when someone already wants to be with you - when someone desires you and feels attracted to you - is not about how you look , your makeup , what size you are , your hair , your wealth , or anything about you .

What is it about ?

That ’ s what it was in the beginning , remember ?

That ’ s why sex toys and tricks won ’ t bring the spark back if the relationship doesn ’ t make you and your partner feel that way anymore .

Please understand that not feeling that way anymore didn ’ t happen overnight .

If you ’ re anything like our students , it happened because your day-to-day interactions with your partner , over time , created more and more distance , resentments , pains , and hurts that were never solved .

All those unsolved hurts are like bricks in a wall between the two of you , and each new unsolved hurt is yet another brick in the wall .

The more bricks the two of you put in that wall , the more life is sucked out of your relationship , and one of the first things to go , as the bricks stack up , is the energy of sensuality between you .

Intimate desire energy cannot co-exist with that brick wall after it reaches a certain height .

Plus , making a bid for passion and being rejected creates such cement bricks in the wall between you and your partner that it may as well be a countdown timer to the end of your relationship .

In order for the energy of desire to grow and flourish again , those resentments , hurts , and pains have to be solved … not with sex solutions , but with relationship solutions , because again , sex problems are symptoms , not causes .

Once you solve the bricks , a phenomenal sex life can be unleashed !