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Does this sound like a game you’ d want to play? Of course not. It’ s ridiculous, but so many of us are playing this game and operating as if it’ s how confidence works.
Confidence is when you trust yourself, firmly and boldly. And trusting yourself is not a“ If you go first, I’ ll do it, too,” proposition. There isn’ t anyone or anything to prove yourself to, wait for, or find.
True confidence is built internally and involves one person( hint: it’ s YOU). We’ ve been seeking it from all the wrong sources, especially as women.
Here are four specific strategies for building real confidence, internally. The empowering kind that’ s based on trust, isn’ t conditional, and can’ t be taken away.
1. Keep Your Commitments
When you ask anyone who they trust, they’ ll answer with some version of,“ People who keep their commitments.” We trust people who do what they say they will. So a phenomenal way to build internal trust is to keep our word.
As women, we tend to be better about honoring the commitments we make to others; we put our internal agreements on the backburner. If it has to do with our family, friends, and our work, we often do what we say we will.
But if it’ s something that impacts only us, we can get pretty loosey-goosey with our word. When you don’ t follow through on the commitments you make to yourself, you’ re breaking trust and chipping away at your confidence.
WISDOM & SELF-GROWTH
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