June/July 2024 Aspire Magazine FULL Issue | Page 100

Here ’ s the problem with convincing … it ’ s about YOU wanting to win ( and if you ’ re winning and your partner is losing , ultimately EVERYONE is going to lose ).

But when you COLLABORATE , you come together with your different perspectives and truly listen to each other . Everyone wins . You create an outcome that was greater than what either of you envisioned by yourself !

Here ’ s the truth : “ your way ” is largely rooted in a WANT that you have because you think it will make you happy .

You want to be gentler in your parenting because you have a FEAR around the way your partner disciplines them . You push “ Your Way ” to protect you from that fear .

You want everyone to eat dinner at the table because that means that you are building connections and being a good mom . You push “ Your Way ” to feel like a better parent .

I know this can be a BIG idea to take in , but all of your “ My Ways ” are tied to YOUR blueprint , your wants , your beliefs .

But you ’ re not in a family of ONE — you ’ re in a family of many .

When you face conflict with your partner , there are two major false beliefs that make it hard to let go .

The first is the belief that ‘ your way ” is the only right way and that everyone should see it that way . That is simply untrue . There are a million ways to get to “ happy .”