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Emotional Intelligence
Some of the characteristics of healthy
relationships embody what is known
as emotional intelligence. Emotional
intelligence is about being adept in several
core areas involving emotion within yourself
and in your interactions with others. The
areas of personal competence include self-
awareness and management of both your
emotions and your behaviors in response
to them. Accurately perceiving your own
emotions and positively channeling those
emotions are key to becoming personally
and socially competent.
The other component of emotional intelli-
gence is how accurately you tune in to the
emotions of those around you and assess
what might be going on with them, and
whether you use this knowledge efficaciously
to mediate your interactions with them. As
you can imagine, emotional intelligence
is something you want to develop and
something you want to look for in a partner.
Emotionally intelligent people experience
much more successful platonic and
romantic relationships, greater academic
achievement, more positive interactions with
their children, and greater success at work.
In your search for love, you will be rejected (at
least once!). Moreover, you will reject other
people you meet. You may find someone to
take a chance on, someone you believe has
“potential.” But if you keep trying to change
someone to fit the mold of what you desire,
and it isn’t working, examine your motives
and behavior. You must be realistic about a
partner’s willingness to change. Don’t keep
trying harder to fix him. Instead, move on and
declare yourself open to finding someone
capable of reciprocating love. There is
nothing like sharing your life with a partner
you can count on, one who is emotionally
available to you and more than willing to love
you back.
Copyright ©2019 by Dr. Marni Feuerman. Excerpted from the
book Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. Printed with permission
from New World Library www.newworldlibrary.com.
Dr. Marni Feuerman - Dr. Feuerman is the author of Ghosted and
Breadcrumbed. She is a licensed social worker and marriage and
family therapist with a private practice counseling those with
relationship issues. She also trains therapists to do couples therapy
and writes about love relationships for a number of online media.
She lives in Boca Raton, Florida. Find out more about her work
online at www.DrMarniOnline.com.
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