Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov2019 Aspire Magazine | Page 64

not a priority for them. After measuring and scorekeeping for so long, you can’t bear to be the “loser”. They change easily when we inspire change. It’s transformation through inspiration, a skillset that can be learned. Are you willing to hold onto your fear and suffer with your relationship staying stuck or worse, spiraling downward? It’s time to stop score-keeping, harness your courage and DECIDE to take action for your relationship... so that YOU can live in the relationship that you have always wanted! Ask yourself every day, “Am I showing up as my best and most authentic self with my partner and my relationships?” LIE #3: No matter what I do, they will never change. One of our students, Bonnie, believed that her relationship was to the point of no return. Luckily, Bonnie’s sister, had gone through our RelationshipU program and had begun to see inspiring change in her life. Bonnie started to have hope that it could work for her too! One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is that our partner will never change. Well, if you were to divorce your current partner, watch them meet someone else and fall in love...they will change. Even though her husband was not at all into personal growth or development, Bonnie signed up for the program and began making shifts. When she chose to transform, her relationships at work, with her kids and with her husband began to flourish. That relationship will be fresh and it will seem like they’re free from all of the crap that built up with you until the pattern repeats itself and that new relationship turns to crap too! All because she showed up as a Relationship Transformer without power playing or using Demand Relationship™. TWO FACTS ARE TRUE: Fact 1: Everyone changes. Fact 2: You can’t demand that someone else change to please you. When you hear, “People don’t change.” That’s a lie. What they mean is, “I can’t get other people to change the way that I want them to change!” The truth is …. people change when they authentically want to change for themselves. 64 A year after turning their marriage around, her husband was inspired to show up at one of our events! All of Bonnie’s great relationship results gave him hope! It only takes one to say yes. And the best part is that saying yes not only turns your marriage around it also: • Gives you the skills to be empowered in all of your relationships • Allows you to finally show up as your best and most authentic self • Gives you the opportunity to be the happiest you have ever been • Allows you to finally be the parent you know you want to be for your kids www.AspireMAG.net | October / November 2019