Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2017 Aspire Mag Full Issue: Feminine Wisdo | Page 73
Feelings—Your inner Guidance System
I’ve discovered four ways that many people
emotionally abandon themselves: The problem with emotionally abandoning
yourself in any of these ways is that you
are bypassing your entire inner guidance
system. For example, do you know how
you feel when you abandon yourself? Most
people feel anxious, depressed, empty,
alone, guilty, shamed and/or angry when they
abandon themselves, but they rarely connect
these feelings with their self -abandonment.
Instead, they believe they feel this way due to
something external.
1 Self-judgment
How often are you aware of judging yourself?
Do you tell yourself that you are not good
enough, that you are a failure, that you are
stupid, or ugly or bad? I don’t think I’ve ever
counseled a person who didn’t judge their self
in some ways.
2 Staying in your head rather than
being present in your body
Do you spend most of your awake time
thinking, being unaware of your feelings? Is
thinking a way you’ve learned to avoid feeling
your feelings?
3 Turning to various addictions
Have you learned to turn to various addictions
to avoid feeling your feelings? Do you indulge
in substances, activities or various forms of
controlling behavior to avoid your feelings?
4 Making another or others re-
sponsible for your feelings
Do you look to others for the attention and
approval that you are not giving to yourself?
Do you then try to control them with anger,
judgment,
compliance,
withdrawal
or
resistance, in order to get them to give you
want you want?
If you start to tune into how you feel when
you judge yourself, or when you are in your
head thinking rather than being present in
your body, or you are acting out addictively
or making others responsible for you, you will
discover how awful you are making yourself
feel. You will discover that your feelings of
anxiety, depression, emptiness, aloneness,
guilt, shame, abandonment or anger are
letting you know that you are abandoning
yourself.
Do you want to know this? If you do, make a
decision to start learning from your feelings,
rather than avoiding them. You will discover
that when you learn to take emotional
responsibility, it becomes far easier to take
personal responsibility in all other areas of
your life. You will discover that when you start
to learn from your feelings, rather
than continue to avoid them, your Read
entire life will change for the better. Online!
Dr. Margaret Paul - Dr. Margaret Paul is a bestselling author,
relationship expert, popular Huffington Post writer and co-creator of
the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, recommended by
actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared
on numerous radio and television shows, including Oprah, and has
successfully worked with thousands and taught classes and seminars for
over 47 years. Visit www.InnerBonding.com and download Margaret’s
Inner Bonding Home Study Course and learn to love yourself.
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Emotional Self-Abandonment