The painful emotions are difficult, and you may want to avoid them or push them aside. Doing so will not make them go away. They will return in some form or another until they are worked through. Find a pace that you can manage. Face them as you can. Release them through tears, words, and movement.

When life is in crisis, there are certain tasks that still have to be attended to. Delegate what you can. Run what is left through the filter of‘ Have-To’ vs.‘ Should.’ Yes, maybe I should get my newsletter out as scheduled. Maybe I should finish that work project – it wouldn’ t take that long. I really should go to my niece’ s dance recital or championship sporting event.

‘ Shoulds’ add unnecessary pressure at a time when stress is high enough. It is important to manage your energy so that you have what you need to accomplish the tasks that must be done. Do what you have to and let go of the rest. People will understand. You don’ t always have to be capable, attentive, and on-task.

Take care of yourself as best you can – physically, mentally, and emotionally. While you may not feel hungry, you still need to eat healthy, nourishing foods. Sleep may be elusive, yet your body needs rest. Do what you can to manage your run-away mind. Talk with friends. Look for diversions and creative outlets. Stay grounded. Spend time outdoors.

As best as you are able, ask for what you need, whether it be companionship, space to be alone for a while, or help with a project that is overwhelming. Think about how you would treat a friend going through a similar experience, and treat yourself with that level of compassion.

When your inner world is in turmoil, it is reflected in your outer world. Busywork keeps your mind too active for your heart to feel. That’ s an easy escape for a while, but it is illusionary. Create a quiet space in your