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When you
allow this type
of thinking
(comparison and
disappointment)
to creep into your
mind, you risk
talking yourself
into a false belief
that your life is
a disaster while
everyone else has
it all figured out.
how to be (or at least appear to be) so
confident and happy.
4. You are stuck in a whirlwind of
disappointment.
Disappointment paralyzes many women.
We find ourselves obsessing over all of
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the things that have not gone the way we
envisioned. It might be our careers,
marriages, or relationships with our kids.
It might also be the absence of children,
or a lack of friendship or romance. The
negative effect of disappointment is
compounded when we’re also caught
in the habit of comparison. These two
confidence busters work to amplify one
another. When you allow this type of
thinking (comparison and disappointment)
to creep into your mind, you risk talking
yourself into a false belief that your life is
a disaster while everyone else has it all
figured out.
Any one of these things can leave you
feeling like you’re not enough. More than
one? That can be a lot to manage every
day. I encourage you to get to work. Life
is too short to fall victim to these common
confidence busters.
Put a stake in the ground, declaring to
yourself, “90 days from now, I will be a
more confident version of myself, because
I am going to get to work, starting today.”
Let’s talk about three things you
can do to cultivate confidence over
the next 90 days.
1.
View confidence as a journey.
Rather than ruminating on your current
lack of confidence, focus on what you can
do to grow in confidence. View it as a skill
to be developed over time, and get this
journey started.
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