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onfidence matters.
Deep, real, authentic happiness in life
requires confidence. Without it, happiness
rests on the surface. It is fleeting and fragile,
often dependent upon the experience that is
right in front of you.
When you choose to become authentically
confident, everyone around you benefits.
People miss the real you if you are not able
to shine and to be on fire about your purpose
in the world. Your confidence and happiness
are gifts to everyone around you.
If you struggle in the area of confidence,
you are not alone. Many women lack
confidence—and it can make them feel like
they’re failing no matter how much they’ve
accomplished in life.
Confidence is your belief in yourself. It is
your belief that you can figure things out,
that you can overcome the things that are
put in your path, and that you are as capable
and deserving as the woman next to you.
I’ve seen women turn their lives around, on
fire to wake up every morning, because they
did the work to become a confident woman.
We’ll get started by looking at
four things that can get in the
way of your confidence.
1. You are overwhelmed.
It’s easy to take too much on. We get drawn
into robust calendars and lots of activity,
When you
choose to become
authentically
confident,
everyone around
you benefits.
often competing with the women around
us for perfection. When overwhelm kicks
in, everything can start to feel like a mess.
When things feel like a mess, it is easy to
feel incapable—and that leads to a loss of
confidence.
2.
You have given others permission
to hurt you.
Others’ words often have a negative impact
on a woman’s confidence. Words and
actions hurt women, and the effects can last
a long time. Whose words have led you to
feel you are not worthy?
3. You compare yourself to others.
A portion of low confidence may be rooted
in comparison. In a world where carefully
curated social media posts and magazine
covers stare at us every day, we can get
lost in our heads wondering how these other
more-put-together women have figured out
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