Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2016 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 55

“I particularly remember one photograph. It was the most beautiful and delicate crystal that I had so far seen—formed by being exposed to the words ‘love and gratitude.’ It was as if the water had rejoiced and celebrated by creating a flower in bloom. It was so beautiful that I can say that it actually changed my life from that moment on.” Studies also show that feeling appreciated is one of our deepest emotional needs. Gratitude for the positive, supportive words and actions of another person opens us, in turn, to feelings of love, vulnerability, and intimacy. Therefore, we can honor others by expressing appreciation and gratitude for their being as part of our language of love. For example, even though we don’t expect our partner or friend to bring us coffee in the morning, make dinner, or clean up the kitchen, we can be spontaneously appreciative when we see they have done such tasks. We might say, “I appreciate that you think of me when you bring me that morning cup of coffee.” Or, “You realized how tired I was after work, and it was thoughtful of you to make dinner,” Or simply, “Thank you for cleaning the kitchen.” Expressing gratitude, especially for the little things that occur each day, contributes significantly