Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) April/May 2017 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 68
command of a ship that was constantly
on deployment. I truly took my role as
“the commanding officer’s spouse” very
seriously since I knew the time away would
be made easier if the crew knew someone
at home was supportive of their families.
Unfortunately, in my zeal to serve and
make a difference for the crew’s families,
I forgot to take care of me. There were no
boundaries on my time and self-care. For 3
years I allowed the phone to ring from early
morning to late at night. I was in a constant
state of giving and doing. The result was
that after my husband’s tour we moved to
Newport, RI and the following six months
saw me doing nothing as I recuperated and
took care of me.
Would I do it all again? In a heartbeat. The
experience gave me the opportunity to teach
leaders the valuable lesson of creating and
honoring boundaries.
So please, tighten it up and learn when to
say “no” and when to say “yes.” Tune in to
your body and ask yourself how you feel. If
there is discomfort, pay attention to it, and if
it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it.
STEP 2: Let go and delegate.
What do you have to do
yourself and what can be
delegated to others? This
is important. We tend
to take on others’ drama
because it’s “easier” than
giving them explanations
and showing them what to do. Or, they don’t
do a task as well as you. GET OVER IT!
Delegate, let go and allow others to practice
and learn. Stop depriving the other person
of learning and responsibility.
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STEP 3: Allow energy to flow
easily between the pillars.
When we allow flexibility and flow, instead
of constant resistance due to our need for
control or fear of change, we move easily
between the pillars. According to Newton’s
First Law of Motion, a body at rest will remain
at rest (the unmoving balanced scale) unless
an outside force acts on it, and a body in
motion at a constant velocity will remain in
motion (the scale shifting between the pillars
of life) unless acted upon by an outside force.
This constant motion is called life.
STEP 4:
Give yourself a
break and focus on what is
really important.
Some situations will need more time and
attention than others. That’s what work/
life harmony is about! Stay present in the
moment and breathe deeply. Focus on what
is in front of you. Shift out the “I have to do
this, I have to do that” syndrome, and focus
on what matters most: the people in your
life. The tasks will always be there. When
you do this, something amazing happens:
things get done. At the beginning or the end
of the day take a 30,000-foot view of your
day and life, and adjust. There is no right or
wrong. It’s about doing what feels right.