4. It Takes More Than Time to Heal.
5. They’ ve Learned to Isolate.
6. They Feel Bad.
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the pain into our future relationships and often repeat old patterns that lead to further hurt.
•“ I realize nothing will fix or replace the pain you’ re feeling. I want you to know I’ m here for you.”
4. It Takes More Than Time to Heal.
One of the least helpful things we can say to someone experiencing emotional pain is“ It just takes time.”
Just like time alone doesn’ t heal most physical injuries, it also doesn’ t heal emotional injuries. What’ s most important is the actions we take within time that lead to our healing or our continued suffering.
•“ Time alone won’ t take away your pain, but I’ m here to help you discover tools that can support your healing.”
5. They’ ve Learned to Isolate.
One painful experience as a child in pain being told to“ go to your room if you’ re going to cry” can lead to lifelong suffering. Those individuals learn early in life to hide their pain to avoid judgment or criticism. Over time, this tendency to isolate can prevent us from seeking the connection and support we need to heal.
•“ I know you might feel like isolating right now. Is it okay if I just sit with you for a while and then check on you later?
6. They Feel Bad.
Accepting that your loved one feels bad is the first step in helping them feel validated rather than dismissed. While we can’ t turn off pain, expressing it creates space for the healing to begin.
•“ I can’ t imagine how much your heart hurts. I’ m here to support you as you grieve and heal.
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