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some generational symptoms passed down epigenetically from one generation to the next are :
● Seeing oppression everywhere
● Hatred for the perceived oppressors
● Seeing discrimination even when it isn ’ t intended or doesn ’ t exist
● A sense of not being seen and respected
● Clinging to past wounds , past actions
● Unworthiness
● A sense of always being put down
● Inability to prosper
As well , there are generational symptoms of perpetration passed down epigenetically from one generation to the next . It ’ s interesting to note that some symptoms of past victimization and past perpetration are the same . Some of these symptoms are :
● Guilt
● A subconscious desire to be punished or to fail
● Self-sabotage
● Anger and the continued desire to inflict pain and suffering
● A sense of unworthiness
● Apologizing for everything , even when no harm is done
● Inability to prosper
Let me give a quick example to show how this works . A client , I ’ ll call her Hua Ming , came to the US on a university exchange scholarship from China . After graduation , she chose to stay in America and became a citizen in order to continue her work at a prestigious laboratory as a geneticist . She came to me on the advice of a friend because she felt blocked . She was frightened by her growing responsibilities at work . She was frightened by the increasing expectations of her American fiancé and her upcoming marriage — frightened to the point she was considering throwing it all away and moving back to China .
When I asked her to explain her fear it became clear it was really more an issue of not being able to live up to Western people ’ s assessment of her value . She couldn ’ t understand how she was suddenly worthy . “ I can ’ t do what they ’ re asking of me ,” she cried , wringing her hands . “ My boss expects me to lead this next team project . My fiancé thinks I should go for my PhD and an even higher position .” She shook her head miserably . “ Who do they think I am ?”
Looking at Ming ’ s family heritage , it wasn ’ t hard to uncover the pattern of unworthiness grounded in her ancestral pattern of gender discrimination . Her parents had been terribly disappointed to have a girlchild . Low expectations had plagued her all her life . Despite her determination to rise above those low opinions of her — a determination that had carried her far from her homeland — the unconscious inherited sense of unworthiness as a woman and lack of value was dragging her down .
When I explained emotional DNA , family patterns , and metapatterns and she finally got to see that the unworthiness she was feeling wasn ’ t really hers , but rather inherited emotions piled on top of a negative upbringing , she was able to work through those negative emotions . Instead of remaining a victim to the old patterns , she was able to see how far she ’ d come because of them and what she had to offer . She turned the negative into the positive . She saw her true strength and
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