4. Heal the“ Unlovable” Story at the Core
5. Interrupt Reactions
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4. Heal the“ Unlovable” Story at the Core
At the heart of many repeating relationship patterns lives a quiet belief:
“ Something about me is too much … or not enough.”
This belief doesn’ t usually live in conscious thought. It lives in the body, in early emotional memory, in moments when love felt conditional or withheld.
You may compensate by:
• Over giving to friends and partners
• Becoming indispensable
• Choosing people who need fixing
• Avoiding your needs altogether
Rewriting your love story means gently bringing compassion to yourself— not trying to convince yourself you’ re lovable, but experiencing it through repair.
When the nervous system learns that love can be received without performance, selfabandonment, or struggle, your choices begin to change naturally.
5. Interrupt Reactions
Even after years of therapy or personal growth, many people find themselves looping through the same emotional reactions— a familiar emotional lens that keeps past pain stuck.
When this happens:
• You assume you’ re the problem
• You overanalyze
• You brace for disappointment
• You interpret ambiguity as rejection
Rewriting your love story requires learning how to pause these reactions in the moment, return to the body, and reconnect with your deeper Self— the part of you that is calm, curious, and capable of discernment.
From this place, you can respond rather than react. And response changes everything.
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