I believe we can all defy odds in different ways . The key is to be open to change and realize that shifts in your life , perspective , and circumstances are just what you may need . They happen for you and not to you .

All obstacles whether big or small are challenging . They can be devastating and life-changing or mere inconveniences . You may not understand why something is happening , but you know you can ’ t ignore it or run away from it — you have to deal with it . While you may not be able to control what ’ s happening , you can control how you perceive it . Viewing it in a positive light isn ’ t always easy to do , but it ’ s your best option . Think to yourself “ Why is this happening ? What is this teaching me ? How can this benefit me ?” Turn it around . It may seem difficult but it ’ s there to serve you .

Notice the emotions that well up and isolate them . Consider creating a “ worry time ” each day when you allow yourself to let negative thoughts seep in . During other times , think of how the obstacle can benefit you . Then , put the worrying aside .

This practice alone will lift your spirits .

Flexibility is key to being resilient . I recently completed a study of 60 wise adults and scientifically defined wisdom as eight elements — resilience , kindness , positivity , spirituality , humility , tolerance , creativity , and curiosity . Resilience was the most prevalent element that emerged . It ’ s an essential life skill .

WISDOM & SELF-GROWTH