Feb/Mar 2025 Aspire Magazine FULL Issue | Page 102

This happens in all long-term relationships .

Over time , the Brick Wall Between You gets higher and higher . Until one day , you look over at your partner , and you don ’ t even recognize them anymore . You feel like you don ’ t know them ( or yourself ). And you wonder if they even LIKE you , let alone LOVE you , with how they treat you .

This happens because once the Brick Wall Between You reaches eye-level in any relationship , when you look at your partner , you are NOT looking at THEM , you are looking at the wall .

Everything they do or say is being filtered through or flavored by all the unsolved kerfuffles , pains and upsets in each brick in the wall between you .

Unfortunately , this is when so many people decide to give up on their partner , falsely thinking it will be better with someone else . But , in relationship dynamics , you bring YOU with you into your next relationship . And , you bring your WALL .

Meaning , you brick your brick wall with you , with yourself walled behind it . That ’ s why when a date says something that lights up one of the bricks in your wall , you think to yourself , “ oh no . I know that crap . My ex used to say that . I ’ m outta here .”

Plus , you never got the SOLUTION to solve each kerfuffle , upset or disappointment that put a brick into the wall … so your same lack of skill set impacts the next relationship ( and so does theirs ).