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any other type of intervention used for
conception, there is a form of surrender. It is
just a different kind of surrender than getting
pregnant the old-fashioned way.
Your job is to start to get comfortable in the
darkness of space — when you don’t have
the answers or conclusions. Furthermore,
your job as the female is specifically to let
creativity happen through you. Yup, it’s time
to give up some of that control.
How do I sell this idea to you, though, if you
are like a lot of other modern women and like
to make vision boards and execute plans to
get toward where you want to go? It can feel
like a real struggle when we cannot make
something happen via our own thinking
and doing, can’t it? It may feel difficult
to let things unfold naturally until we feel
we’ve done all we can. However, because
conception takes more than one entity, a
state of receptivity is important, and this
can become compromised if we are trying
to control everything. I’m not saying this is
easy — receptivity and surrender challenge
our fears around trust and even our own
self-confidence.
sense of faith and wonder. Allowing yourself
to be surprised by the universe can actually
be a really magical thing, sometimes even
more fun than planning everything to a T
and getting exactly what you want when you
want it. Remember the saying “A watched
pot never boils”? Well, it applies when you
are trying to get pregnant, too.
Women who feel the call to conceive often
start to grasp for a baby. They want to reach
out and grab it, and they will do whatever
they can to get it. Sometimes this works, and
sometimes it sabotages the whole thing —
because if there is too much grasping for the
outcome, then there is no room for receiving
the gifts that take you to the outcome. The
baby you were meant to have will not come
by your forcing. It will come by magic.
Pathologies are created energetically and
physically when there are imbalances of
giving, receiving, and grasping. Conception
becomes blocked, elusive, or rejected when
such pathologies are present. The balance
point between receiving and giving is where
you find the fertile ground for conception to
take place.
HEALTH & WELLNESS
In having a baby, you are not the one
“making” anything when it actually happens.
You are a vessel. You cannot control the
outcome. You can try to influence it, but you
can’t control it. This is part of why a fertility
journey — like any creative endeavor — is
a spiritual journey for the modern woman
who has a hard time relinquishing control.
First, you do the best you can to take
care of yourself in your environment, you
connect deeply with your partner (literally
and figuratively!), and then you roll the dice.
You may experience mental anguish in the
void, and this is where it’s handy to hold a
Excerpted from the book The Ayurvedic Guide to
Fertility. Copyright ©2020 by Heather Grzych. Printed
with permission from New World Library — www.
newworldlibrary.com.
Heather Grzych - Heather is the author of The Ayurvedic Guide to
Fertility. A board-certified Ayurvedic practitioner, she bridges the
worlds of conventional and alternative medicine to help women
and men heal their physical and emotional lives. Heather is on the
board of directors for the National Ayurvedic Medical Association
and has consulted with doctors, governments, and insurance
companies. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. Visit her online at
heathergrzych.com.
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