Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov2019 Aspire Magazine | Page 32

you can identify where your programming originated by asking and answering a series of questions like the ones below:  oes your passivity come from your D family of origin or a teenage version of self where you pretended to be helpless and demure in order to get rescued or fawned upon? Is it a behavior picked up in adulthood after repeatedly being passed over for promotions? In regard to a lack of heart-centered connection during family time, has this always been a challenge for you? Did it evolve over the years as more and more elaborate family rituals and responsibilities bogged you down? Sometimes we know exactly where our programming came from, and other times we have no idea at all. While it can be interesting to learn where your beliefs were first created, it is not necessary to know every detail. It is necessary, however, to know what behavior or subconscious programming you want to release, and what behavior you want to adopt. Begin by making a list of the subconscious programming you want to release, in clear, direct statements, such as: I release my negative self-talk. I release my need to “do it all,” to constantly seek approval from others. I no longer find myself criticizing or commenting on others. I release my belief that women should be submissive. I am no longer affected by the  negativity of those around me. I release my addiction to smoking. 32 For each of those statements, write out what your ideal new behavior looks like. These affirmative statements are the suggestions that you will teach your subconscious mind during the self-hypnosis session, so make them clear and positive, and write them in the present tense, like this:  ach and every time I feel the need to E condemn or judge myself, I find myself being gentle and compassionate with myself instead. Each day, in unexpected ways, I receive and gratefully accept love and assistance from those around me. I find that I judge myself less and enjoy myself more. From this point forward, I enjoy other people’s unique modes of doing things because I find that I learn from them in unexpected ways. I take steps to show the world that I am a powerful, visible, and worthy woman. I create vibrant joy within myself, no matter my circumstances. When I feel the craving for a cigarette, I take a walk, chew some gum, and think about my beautiful, healthy lungs. Another way to do this is by relabeling yourself in a way that’s authentic for you: “Although in the past I used humor as a defense, I am now secure and confident in myself, and this defense is no longer necessary.” Or “I’m healthy, fit, and strong. Every day I crave activities and foods that are healthy for me and my body.” You can even use a more analytical statement such as “New behaviors become easier and easier each time I choose them.” Or “I develop new neural pathways that become stronger and stronger every day.” www.AspireMAG.net | October / November 2019