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and absence of fear comes entry into your Meditation Room. Delivering your baby in this Meditation Room encourages gentle, comfortable, and healthy( maybe even blissful!) birthing.
An important component of preventing your fears from pulling you out of your Meditation Room is letting them speak their piece so they can leave you be.
Give a Voice to Your Fears
Ninety-Second Release
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Tense situations are commonly diffused after both parties freely express their opinions. Conflicts with fears are no different— your fears need a nonjudgmental space in which to express themselves before they feel compelled to move on. That space is created when you stop trying to“ fix” or overcome a fear, and just sit with it in a private location. Breathe into the emotions and sensations that emerge as you allow the fear to be there. Notice them and name them. For example,“ I’ m breathing into the tightness I feel in my chest when I think about my fear of pushing my baby out. I’ m not trying to make it go away— it’ s there— I’ m just acknowledging it.”
Resist the temptation to validate, discredit, or conquer the fear— just be present with it. As if you’ re watching a movie, observe the thoughts and images that come up as the fear moves through you; none of it is wrong. Any resistance, tightness, sadness, shaking, shame, pressure, anger, or any other form of emotional or physical expression is perfect, because that’ s what’ s coming up. It all has to come up to be released, and this can all happen in ninety seconds.
It takes ninety seconds or less for an emotion to be generated, chemically flow through the body, and be set free. If you say,“ No! I do not want to feel sad right now. I’ m going to force myself to feel something else,” and resist the ninety-second surge of sadness, you’ ll need to process it again and again until you surrender to it. You can handle anything for ninety seconds; set your timer and breathe through it. Did you know surges during active labor often last about ninety seconds, commonly peaking at around thirty seconds, then diminishing?
Excerpted from the book Feng Shui Mommy: Creating Balance and Harmony for Blissful Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood. Copyright © 2017 by Bailey Gaddis. Printed with permission from New World Library. www. newworldlibrary. com.
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Bailey Gaddis- Bailey Gaddis is the author of Feng Shui Mommy. As a Childbirth Preparation Educator, Birth Doula, and Hypnotherapist who works with pregnant women and their gorgeous offspring everyday, Bailey is fairly certain that“ new baby smell” is the most enticing aroma on Earth. Visit her online at www. baileygaddis. com.
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