Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2017 Aspire Mag Full Issue: Feminine Wisdo | Page 29

Sustaining healthy energetic boundaries increases our ability to infuse difficult situations with positive energy―and ultimately, to transform them. In choosing to respond rather than react, we can diffuse a negative situation and create a neutral space in which the other person doesn’t have anything to come up against. Without something to react to, they are more likely to calm down and even become aware of their own reaction. Providing them with a mirror of love in which to see themselves helps them gain awareness of their behaviors. Thus, holding them accountable for their actions actually opens the possibility for unconditionally loving interactions with them in the future. An additional benefit of showing kindness and compassion to others for their self- discoveries is that whenever such people come into our lives, they also reveal something about ourselves that we need to either release or transform. So when we fear getting hooked into any person’s negative patterns we can also observe ourselves to discover our own possible negative patterns related to the exchange. Then we can compassionately bless the person and release the situation to resolve on its own. When we open our hearts, withhold judgment, and remain nonreactive, we experience situations from a spiritually elevated perspective; this gives us detachment as well as the capacity to feel compassion for even those who deceive or hurt us. “A truly compassionate attitude toward others does not change even if they behave negatively or hurt you,” says His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama. Showing compassion for others’ struggles and suffering allows us to discover valuable information that may alter our perspective on their plight. For instance, instead of judging a person who neglected or abused us as a child, we can investigate how they, too, may have been neglected or abused, and compassionately love the child they were when they were hurt like us. Profound compassion opens our hearts to empathy, forgiveness and love, even to perfect strangers. Practicing compassionate detachment gives us the power to transcend anyone or anything that doesn’t originate from the energy of love. Read Online! Dr. Deb Reble - Consciously merging her practical tools as a psychologist with her intuitive and spiritual gifts, Intuitive Psychologist Dr. Debra Reble empowers women to connect with their hearts and live authentically and supports them in breaking through their energetic and spiritual blocks to self-love. Debra is the International Best- selling author of Being Love: How Loving Yourself Creates Ripples of Transformation in Your Relationships and the World (Inspired Living Publishing) and the author of Soul-Hearted Partnership: The Ultimate Experience of Love, Passion, and Intimacy, which garnered four book awards including the Eric Hoffer award, as well as a contributing author to many best-selling books. Debra is a sought after speaker and media guest and is the host of the popular Soul-Hearted Living Podcast on iTunes. Visit www.DrDebraReble.com and claim your complimentary 4-part Sacred Meditation Series today. 29 Separating our reactions from someone else’s gives us the detachment we need to stop taking their reactions personally or blaming them for ours. One way to remain compassionate and responsive is to remind ourselves that the other person is going through their own process of self-discovery, which likely has nothing to do with us. We must trust that they are on their own soul’s journey, and are creating the scenarios they need to spiritually transform.