Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2014 - Featuring Louise Hay | Page 74

it is imagined, that is, it has not yet happened, and we don’t know for sure that it will happen. We are afraid that it might happen, that we might get hurt, that we might look silly or stupid, or loose face. Give your fearless self room. Fear of being seen as stupid is not a true fear, but it stops many, many women from turning their dreams into reality. Concern about how others will view us is no more real than our fear of possible future pain. We have very little control, in fact, over other’s views of us. It is our own reflection upon ourself that holds the greatest judgment, the greatest blame. When we change our self-talk, when we support the parts of ourself that are willing to take risks and willing to look silly, our fearless self comes to the forefront. When selftalk is relentless and nasty, I suggest getting a book in which you write down those self-abasing and selfdemeaning statements. You may read the book whenever you like. But you may never again think anything you have written in your book. The fearless self gladly occupies the space that those ideas had been 74 taking in your mind, and you begin to have fearless thoughts, which inevitably lead to fearless actions. Separate reality from fantasy, fearlessly. The fearless self partakes of “beginner’s mind,” which opens us to possibilities When we change our self-talk, when we support the parts of ourself that are willing to take risks and willing to look silly, our fearless self comes to the forefront. and sets us free from conventional restraints. But we need a kite string to keep us connected to earth. A dream needs hands and feet as well as wings. There are many things I enjoy fantasizing about that I would never actually want to do. The fearless self is not afraid of hard work, but it doesn’t want to die or be maimed. What actual physical tasks will be involved in manifesting your vision? Can you endure www.AspireMAG.net | October / November 2014 them? There are many repetitious and distasteful chores in life, no matter how we choose to live. The fearless self may play the fool, but it is not truly foolish. The fearless self stands ready to abandon all and anything when drugs and alcohol, violence and aggression are daily events. Escaping alive from some situations is precious. But most of us cower more from our own imagined fear than from actual threats to our existence. Imagine the consequences, fearlessly. What is really at stake? Few dreams overturn one’s life. Most visions come out of our ordinary existence. Even if yours will change your life, even if your dream is to colonize Mars or to change your gender identity, what do you have to lose? Envisioning the possible consequences helps to ground our dreams and put legs on our visions. When we are living our vision, there are few outcomes that seriously challenge our fearless self. Take a moment to ask yourself: “What is the worst that could happen?” And reflect upon whether that