Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) June/July 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 76

rush” means – My plan is to go change diapers, and then I’m leaving for the store. That’s not what you said… Women speak in implied communication and men only understand DIRECT communication (without training). [Write that down!] Also, men have single focus. Now my husband would respond with … “Challenge Accepted… and do I get an extra cookie if I do it in 9?” To which of course, I respond with a YES! Let’s address what happens for your husband when he goes upstairs and he sees the BED –which is on his TO DO LIST. Men have ONE operating system – get shit done. And if he feels like HE can knock this one off his list right now – then he’s going to do it. Stay with me…. This is where MOST women start judging about how INSENSITIVE and SELFISH it is when men do this. MEN DO NOT NEED ANYONE ELSE’S PERMISSION IN LIFE! Until you get this – you will keep suffering. I’m betting that while you were SAYING your plan, there were other things going on in that moment – and he was focused elsewhere. If your husband KNEW clearly that you need to leave for the store in NO MORE THAN 11 minutes from now – you would have been out that door in less than 11 minutes. It can be tough for women to learn how to do this… but it goes like this…In a VERY playful energy, say something like… “Babe, I would love your help getting me out this door, with both kids, in no more than 11 minutes. Would you come upstairs with me and help me get out this door?” 76 www.AspireMAG.net | June / July 2018 So, read that again: Men do not need anyone else’s permission in life. Their brains are wired to take action. Women are the opposite. We need other people’s permission – or we need to get their opinion – or we need to make sure that we are being considerate – etc. Here’s the KERFUFFLE! Men THINK that women don’t need anyone else’s permission – and they treat you that way. [This is really huge] So when he starts working on the bed, he ASSUMES that you are going to continue to do whatever YOU NEED TO DO—without needing his permission.