Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) June/July 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 76
rush” means – My plan is to go change
diapers, and then I’m leaving for the store.
That’s not what you said…
Women speak in implied communication
and men only understand DIRECT
communication (without training). [Write
that down!]
Also, men have single focus.
Now my husband would respond with …
“Challenge Accepted… and do I get an extra
cookie if I do it in 9?”
To which of course, I respond with a YES!
Let’s address what happens for your
husband when he goes upstairs and he
sees the BED –which is on his TO DO LIST.
Men have ONE operating system – get shit
done. And if he feels like HE can knock this
one off his list right now – then he’s going
to do it.
Stay with me….
This is where MOST women start judging
about how INSENSITIVE and SELFISH it is
when men do this.
MEN DO NOT NEED ANYONE ELSE’S
PERMISSION IN LIFE!
Until you get this – you will keep suffering.
I’m betting that while you were SAYING
your plan, there were other things going
on in that moment – and he was focused
elsewhere.
If your husband KNEW clearly that you need
to leave for the store in NO MORE THAN 11
minutes from now – you would have been
out that door in less than 11 minutes.
It can be tough for women to learn how to
do this… but it goes like this…In a VERY
playful energy, say something like…
“Babe, I would love your help getting me out
this door, with both kids, in no more than 11
minutes. Would you come upstairs with me
and help me get out this door?”
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So, read that again: Men do not need
anyone else’s permission in life. Their brains
are wired to take action.
Women are the opposite. We need other
people’s permission – or we need to get
their opinion – or we need to make sure that
we are being considerate – etc.
Here’s the KERFUFFLE!
Men THINK that women don’t need anyone
else’s permission – and they treat you that
way. [This is really huge]
So when he starts working on the bed, he
ASSUMES that you are going to continue to
do whatever YOU NEED TO DO—without
needing his permission.