Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Jun/July 2019 Aspire Magazine FULL Issue | Page 33
Establishing energetic boundaries with
those closest to you is not always easy
because you are more sensitive to the
emotional pull they have on your heart. You
may even want their happiness more than
they want it for themselves. And, you can
become so involved in trying to generate it
for them that the effort takes a toll on you. At
its best, the resulting energetic drain makes
you vulnerable to compassion fatigue. At
its worst, it can stress your heart, resulting
in exhaustion, anxiety, or depression, and
increased blood pressure or cardiac disease.
“Compassionate
people are
boundaried people.”
By setting energetic boundaries, you
become a more loving, compassionate
person. Such “love fences” allow you to
compassionately engage with others, but
still protect yourself from any unwanted
energy. It is possible to be loving with
another person while still holding them
accountable. Not holding them accountable
for their energy or choices actually impedes
their personal and spiritual growth.
– BRENÉ BROWN
To disengage from people who easily drain
you, you need to become aware of what
triggers your reactions and take time to
energetically detox after the encounter. In
these situations, such “energy bullies,” can
push your emotional buttons and then use
your reaction to bring power and energy to
themselves.
Zip up your protective
energetic suit by practicing
these 5 steps:
Being compassionate doesn’t mean you
have to engage in the negative energy
or process that someone is discharging.
Zipping up your energetic suit keeps you
from taking on their stuff, and instead
support them from a place where you feel
centered and empowered. You can still be
compassionate, but refuse to play a part in
their drama. 1.
For instance, when someone wants to vent
about a particular issue, you can listen
with an open heart, but refrain from taking
on their process, giving unsolicited advice,
or trying to fix the situation. When you zip
up your energetic suit before becoming a
sounding board, you can lovingly support
while remaining calm and nonreactive. When you feel anxious or emotionally
vulnerable, take a few deep breaths, drop
into your heart space, and check in with
yourself. This pause provides a break from
the situation to gain healthy detachment.
It allows you to drop into your heart space
and tune in to what’s going on within you.
This interrupts any knee-jerk reaction so you
G
ive yourself the
permission to pause.
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