Don ’ t you know that my son searched high and low for the hidden delights ? Of course , he always found them . Not only did my insatiable need to control his snacking fail , it actually made things worse . My hiding food from him resulted in his feeling deprived and therefore , he wanted unhealthy foods even more .

choosing the right classes in order to get into the university you think would be the best fit for him ?

Or is your child spending too much time engaged in sports or other extra-curricular activities ? Is he hanging out with kids you don ’ t know or don ’ t approve of ?

FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

I learned this as a result of another attempt to “ fix ” his eating habits . I took him to a food clinic where he would learn about healthy eating from someone other than his mother . Counseling sessions were part of this program . I don ’ t think my son got much out of the program , but I certainly did .

I was horrified when I realized how much my “ helping ” was actually contributing to his eating behavior and negativity . I wasn ’ t really acting out of love for him : I was trying to control him . That illusion of control became my own compulsion .

Perhaps your kids are engaging in a behavior that you believe is unhealthy , or otherwise not in their best interest . Food is a common issue , but it can be anything . Is your child not doing as well in school as you would like ? Is he not studying hard enough or not

It is natural for parents to want to clear the path for their kids . We think we are doing it for them and don ’ t realize that what we are doing is often counterproductive . In the moment we know that things don ’ t feel good , we are try to “ fix ” the issue , so that we aren ’ t seeing the big picture .