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“ YOU CAN ’ T HIT A TARGET YOU CAN ’ T SEE .” – Zig Zigler
Let ’ s take grocery shopping as an example . Have you ever gone to the grocery store without a list before ? Yeah , remember that ? You came home with about 50 % of what you actually needed , a bunch of crap you didn ’ t really need and you forgot 3 of the ingredients for the dinner you were planning to make .
Our lives are busy today . If we don ’ t make an intentional list of what we need before we head out to the grocery store , we won ’ t have the things we need in the house when we need to get that meal on the table .
What ’ s that saying from Ben Franklin ? “ If you fail to plan , you are planning to fail .” It ’ s the same with your relationship .
I know it sounds like a crazy parallel , but hang with me for a second while I explain .
If you don ’ t start with a vision in mind for the relationship that you want to create each day by design , then you end up living in your relationship by default each day , bounced around by the events of the day and living in reaction to your partner .
And most of your reactions in relationship are unconscious , habitual , and picked up from watching the relationships around you growing up , which are probably not relationships you really want to model today .
Life today is very fast . Most of us do not take the time , within the moments of the day , to stop , pause and decide , “ What is the best way for me to react to my partner in order to create the relationship that I want .”
So , just like before going to the grocery store , we need to create a VISION for our relationship ahead of time , so that in the busy moments of the day , we are , in fact , acting on the decisions that we made intentionally . I ’ m blessed to serve thousands of people every day , and at this point , there ’ s one thing I know for sure …
You are creating the relationship you are living in .
With every moment , every decision , every word , every action , every experience you participate in , you are creating your relationship every day .
You are currently living in the relationship you have created with your decisions and actions from yesterday .
And tomorrow , you will be living in the relationship you created with the decisions and actions you make today .
If you are anything like most people , then you have never thought about creating an intentional relationship vision before , and you are currently living in a relationship that you have ended up in by default . I know you had only positive intention for your relationship , you didn ’ t do that on purpose , it ’ s just that no one ever teaches us this stuff ! Well , life today is busy and complicated . And your committed love relationship is the most important relationship of your life and
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