BY NANCY LEVIN

Mine is not a solo story .

The majority of my coaching clients come to me with no idea of what they really want . They ’ re in some sort of transition , aware they need to make a change , yet they know that facing the prospect of living life on their own terms aligned with their own desires for the first time is daunting .

Simply naming desires — feeling worthy and deserving of them without worrying about the logistics and implementation — is the portal into the process of healing , truthtelling , and transformation .

For most of my life , I needed validation . I looked outward for permission . Permission to offer myself love and acceptance . I put everyone else ’ s dreams , needs , and desires before mine . I spent my days managing the perceptions of others , projecting an image of perfection . In the process , I forgot something .