Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2019 Aspire Magazine Final | Page 63
Before boundaries, women lacked the skills
to stand up for themselves. I would say that
they lacked the skills to OWN their worth,
but the truth is, many women that lacked
any boundaries did so because they didn’t
YET know their own self-worth. (How could
they OWN something they couldn’t even
conceptualize yet?)
So, a woman who doesn’t yet believe in her
own self-worth, will look outside of herself for
other people’s assessment of her worth. She
will allow others to dictate what her worth is
and how she should be treated.
Women lived this way for decades. You
already know this.
Of course, NO woman wants to go back to
this way of being, where we had no worth
and no rights and other people had power
over us.
So, fast forward to today. Women do NOT
want to be treated as having no worth. We
want our rights. We want make sure that no
one else has power over us.
Totally reasonable. And kind of obvious
to those of us who read Aspire and are of
course, enlightened enough to know that a
woman never wants to be oppressed and
never should be.
We all agree on this. This is not news.
Now, let’s chat about THE HOW.
How are woman achieving this goal?
How do women protect their rights? How do
we protect our worth? How do we protect
ourselves so that no one else has power
over us?
We establish BOUNDARIES.
The definition of the word Boundary is, “a line
that marks the limit of an area, a dividing line”.
So as women, we start establishing
boundaries that draw a LINE or a limit to how
we will and will NOT be treated. How you
can and cannot talk to me. What I will and
will not tolerate.
We start OWNING our worth and protecting
ourselves by putting up boundaries in
our relationships that STOP people from
crossing that line with us.
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OUR LACK OF WORTH
AS WOMEN IS SO
DEEP INTO OUR
WIRING THAT WE ALL
STRUGGLE AT TIMES
EVEN JUST OWNING
THAT IT IS OK FOR US
TO SAY NO.