Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue: Taking Time fo | Page 71
However, somehow when we take time
for us we often have a rush of negative
emotions. Feelings of guilt, self-judgement
or second guessing our actions flood our
minds. We use words like ‘should’ and tell
ourselves that we are selfish or not enough.
I’m here to tell you that none of this is true.
You are so deserving of self-love, self-care
and time. Time is the gift, you just need to
allow yourself to take and receive it.
That is a tricky thing to do in a world full of
obligations and responsibilities to others. In
a world where everyone is over extended,
overwhelmed and moving at lightning speed.
If you are like most women I know and work
with you give all of you and your time to
others. You are busy meeting their needs,
nurturing and supporting their dreams and
desires. When you do that you are left
with no time or space for you. You neglect
your own simple needs and ultimately find
yourself feeling empty, often angry, resentful
and perhaps unfulfilled. We get so lost in the
care and concern for those around us that
when it’s “our turn” we are out of energy and
time. So, how do to you learn to take care of
you, stand in your power and know it’s ok to
take care of your needs? How do you learn
to love and care for you first? The answer to
these questions is quite simple. However, to
see positive change you must take action.
Massive self-loving action! The answer is
this, you must commit to yourself and the
work of loving you more. You must create
the time for self-care which often means
putting the needs of others aside or doing
less. You must practice talking to yourself in
a loving way and creating new dialog in your
head. When you take time to “show yourself
the “love,” you begin to release negative
thoughts and emotions that make you stuck
or have you playing the shame blame game.
Over time you will learn to acknowledge and
release negative thoughts and behaviors
without judgement or second guessing. It
will be challenging work at first but with daily
commitment to you and this practice you
will see positive change and begin to love
yourself more every single day!
Once you have made a solid commitment to
yourself and this new daily practice I suggest
you give this exercise a try. This simple
exercise takes less than 5 minutes a day.
Every morning before you start your day I
would like you to take time for what I refer to
as “being in the practice”. It’s how we show
ourselves love before the day gets crazy. Do
it first thing! Your first step is to come up with
five loving statements to say to yourself each
morning. It will be your new way of starting
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When you take time to “show yourself the
love,” you begin to release negative thoughts
and emotions that make you stuck or have
you playing the shame blame game.