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moments you’ll realize it’s all a big story, a projection of other people’s hopes and fears onto you. And you might realize it’s a nightmare that you desperately want to break free from. If you want to stop running on the hamster wheel of life, here are a few things I’ve learned that I hope will help you too: You won’t lose everything if you exit the race. You’re not lazy or worthless. It’s a belief you have because you were trained from an early age to build this life. This wasn’t a devious plot masterminded by Pinky and the Brain, but the care and concern of well-meaning parents, teachers, cousins, neighbors, Girl Scout leaders, softball coaches - everyone who wanted you to be happy and successful in life and in the ways they knew how. You were convinced this was the way to be and you wanted to please them. You didn’t want your family to disown you, and you didn’t want to live under an overpass. When you exit the race, you affirm that who you are is more important than what you do. You’re so much more than your to-do list. You’re worthy as you are regardless of how much you do or don’t do. And you’ll find that you’ll only lose the things that no longer serve. You have options. They may not be obvious yet. Right now all you know is that you must follow a script otherwise you won’t be successful, much less happy. But if you continue to wear the straightjacket of busyness, you can’t expand your arms and welcome the flow of joy into your life. You can choose to redefine what makes YOU feel happy and successful. Change the story. You always have a choice to keep going or step back. You can decide how busy you want to be. To believe otherwise is to believe that you don’t deserve to stop, relax, and reflect on what you think o