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Why Being a
PEOPLE
PLEASER
is Selfish
BY CHRISTINE HASSLER
“The art of pleasing is
the art of deceiving.”
A
– French Proverb
re you concerned about what other
people think of you? Do you often make
decisions based on what you think will
please others? Does your sense of self-
worth come from the approval of others? Do
you often withhold from sharing what you
truly want, think or feel because of fear it
may upset someone? Are you often last on
your list of priorities?
Believe me, you are not alone. Our egos love to
be liked, approved and validated. It is natural
to want to fit in and not “upset others” because
it feels safer. All it takes one small experience
of feeling criticized, not liked, thinking we’ve
upset someone, or getting tons of praise and
validation for making others happy to develop
people pleasing as a bad habit.
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