Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2019 Aspire Mag FINAL | Page 71
4. Be Happy With You.
One of the greatest gift you can give your
stepfamily and your partner is to take care
of yourself. Love starts from within and then
flows out, not the other way around. When
you take care of yourself, you’re healthier
both mentally and physically. You are more
resistant to stress and deal with change
with a more positive outlook. Think of the
oxygen mask instructions when you take
the airplane. “You must first put the mask
on you, THEN help younger ones.” If you’re
depleted, how do you expect to be of use to
anyone else?
5. Be a Positive Role Model.
One of the most rewarding roles a stepmom
can have is to be a positive role model for
her stepkids. Being a positive role model
motivates us to strive to be our best,
knowing that our actions speak louder than
words. It also instills a sense of confidence
in our skills as a leader and our abilities to
overcome adversity. We constantly look
for people to emulate. Don’t you think your
stepkids deserve to have someone to look
up to? Wouldn’t it be great if that person is
you? Children will imitate those with whom
they feel a close tie. Make it you.
Happiness requires that you put into practice
the skills that nourishes you and fills you up.
Practicing these five steps means that you
make them a priority in your life and for your
relationships. To get even more out of these
skills, print them out and place it where
you’ll see them on a daily basis. For extra
benefits, write down a few things you can do
for each of these steps and commit to them
daily. Journal your progress and notice the
changes in yourself and in your family. You’ll
be on your way to having a more satisfying
and fulfilled life and stepmom relationships.
One Happiness
requires that you
put into practice the
skills that nourishes
you and fills you
up.
Claudette Chenevert - Claudette, aka The Stepmom Coach, works
with women as they struggle to create a cohesive family life. As a
speaker, author and stepfamily professional, Claudette mentors
and guides stepmoms through the process of establishing a
harmonious and thriving home life for their families. Her book, “The
Stepmom’s Book of Boundaries,” is available on Amazon. Learn
about her coaching practice and self-study program for stepmoms
at www.StepmomCoach.com.
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vision, how do you know where you’re going?
How do you measure you’re progress? How do
you determine you’re on the right path? With
no plan, it’s like driving a car with a blindfold
on while your kids are in the back seat. Would
you dare do that with your children? A plan
gives you direction and incentives. A plan
helps you to anticipate problems and cope
with changes. Have a plan.