Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2017 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 85

We had asked our kids to meet us on the beach behind the hotel. Everyone was to wear a white shirt, even if it was a simple white tee, and either jeans or khaki shorts. Not a complicated request. Still, my husband Tom showed up wearing a blue shirt, which elicited a remark from our oldest son JJ. “Is that the closest thing to white you have, Dad?” Then I noticed the second of our five sons wearing a cream colored shirt with, of all things, bananas all over it. I smiled to myself. After all, I had long ago let go of the notion that I could control anything, especially when it came to family. So why bother fussing? Besides the beach was beautiful, with only a few people strolling along. The sun was lowering in the sky, streaking the blue background with gentle strokes of pink. The kids were smiling and happy to be together if just for the time it took to snap evidence that we really are a family unit. The photographer clicked the camera with enthusiasm, as we followed her instruction. “Okay, on the count of three. One, two, three!” When everyone allowed their picture perfect smiles and stoic postures to relax after the posed shots, I suggested we do a couple of crazy pictures. Without missing a beat, everyone assumed silly poses and the photographer did her magic. When we headed back to the hotel afterward, everyone was laughing and making jokes. It was almost two weeks later when I finally sat down to look at the proofs. The shots were wonderful, just like the photographer had said. But it wasn’t the perfect pictures that spoke to me. It was the crazy ones, where we were all being silly. In my favorite photo, hubby Tom is making a monster face, while daughter Jessica sticks out her tongue. Son Nate is climbing onto the back of his fiancé Danielle. JJ, taller than everyone else, is flexing his muscles in the back, while his wife Bridget holds her hand out with a “What can I say?” look. Our youngest son Ryan looks as if he’s going to punch his brother Sergei in the face. Alex’s expression suggests he just won the lottery. As for me, I am teetering precariously in front of them all as if I’ve had one glass too many. Whenever I look at the crazy photo, I laugh. Everyone looks ridiculous, but it was that photo my eyes kept going back to, not the picture perfect ones. Why? Because I appreciate what that photo represents -- the chaos of our daily lives. Yes, the crazy photo 85 Whenever I look at the crazy photo, I laugh. Everyone looks ridiculous, but it was that photo my eyes kept going back to, not the picture perfect ones.