Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2016 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 66

both at the same time. Gratefulness drives out alienation; there is not room for both in the same heart. When you are grateful you know that you belong to a network of give-and-take and you say, “yes” to that belonging. This “yes” is the essence of love, knowing we are all connected. Gratitude is a shift in focus. When you recognize that gratitude is not simply an emotional response, but also a choice you make (no matter how life is treating you), it awakens another way of being in the world, one that nurtures the heart and helps create a life of meaning and purpose. With gratitude comes acceptance and letting go of things beyond our control; something we all struggle with if we are feeling challenged by life events or people around us. It takes courage to let go and accept what-is and ourselves. Start by claiming your life, your ‘mistakes,’ your choices, and what you’ve chosen to do with that which has shown up in your experience. Start embracing everything that comes into the circle of your existence. Everything can be a teacher, if we choose to take on life in that way and shift out of our ego. From that perspective, there’s room for a lot of courageous gratitude–courageous because it’s scary to say thank you in the middle of things falling apart. It’s scary, yet it’s enlivening, because it’s a way of meeting our fear. Courage is: feeling the fear, diving in anyway (meeting the fear), and transforming. Acknowledging and being with our fear transforms us When you appreciate whom you are and what you have, you become unstoppable. You see the changes and you aim even 66 higher with another step. What you do matters. Once you appreciate your abilities and potential, you can recognize that even the smallest of behaviours can breed positive results and create long-term positive effects. Every time you catch yourself succeeding, stop, acknowledge where you are at and appreciate yourself for a moment. This is an act of self-love. Being thankful every day, even when it’s not easy, has improved my overall attitude and led the way to great things. Being open to what comes has made this whole process seem easy. Letting go of old patterns and ideas has allowed me to be unburdened by fear. I also realized that gratitude can boost courage. Courage to step in the direction we want to go. Courage to make ourselves vulnerable. Courage to put ourselves out there. We become courageous by being courageous The act and power of adopting an attitude of gratitude has a direct effect on our lives on a physical, spiritual, mental and emotional level. Studies have shown that living life with appreciation leads to a greater sense of well-being and happiness. The secret to living a courageous life may rely on focusing on the good, rather than what is lacking or not going well at the Read moment. Online! Di Riseborough - Di Riseborough is a Best Selling Author, Transformational Speaker, Intuitive Life Strategist and ‘F-Word’ (Forgiveness) Specialist featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network. As a Fear & Forgiveness specialist, she helps you become consciously aware of what fears are driving your decisions in life, and assists you in making positive changes and better choices. She is the author of the #1 Best-selling book Forgiveness: How to Let Go When It Still Hurts. Visit www.diriseborough.com and download your complimentary 12 Faces of Fear Assessment. www.AspireMAG.net | August / September 2016