Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2016 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 37

The key to understanding emotions is to accept them as they are. Contrary to what most of us have been taught, they are not to be suppressed or denied. That’s because there really are only three emotions – feeling good, feeling bad or feeling neutral (acceptance) – although we give them a lot of other names. Once you’re able to read your emotional guidance system, it can guide you to think different thoughts and take different actions in order to find balance, understanding, and gratitude. Now you really want to learn how this works, don’t you? And here’s the thing you absolutely have to know: An emotion is always preceded by a thought – and it’s the thought that triggers the emotion. Of course, it often doesn’t feel like a thought caused the feeling. It almost always feels like a circumstance, something outside of ourselves, triggered the feeling – but that’s only because we haven’t trained ourselves to be aware of our thoughts. The good news is that you can learn to be more aware of your thoughts by tuning into your emotions and working back from there. Learning to “read” and trust your emotional guidance system will allow you to “reach” for better-feeling thoughts than the ones you’re currently thinking (that is, the ones causing distress). Your guidance system can offer “real-time” feedback, information about where your emotions are, where they’re likely to lead, and how to “turn around” if necessary. Okay, so when you “reach for the betterfeeling thought,” what are you reaching for, exactly? Well, Esther and Jerry Hicks compiled a very handy list of emotions and arranged them into an Emotional Guidance Scale—one-word descriptions of all the shades of emotion between despair and joy. 37 WISDOM & SELF-GROWTH Once you’re able to read your emotional guidance system, it can guide you to think different thoughts and take different actions in order to find balance, understanding, and gratitude.