Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2016 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 34
We are always creating exactly the reality
we’re most committed to having.
Remember, this commitment is
unconscious and began when
you were very young.
At the young age that our commitments
were formed, they felt vital for our survival.
They may not make sense to us as adults,
but that doesn’t matter. They still have a
hold deep down in our psyches.
In this situation, your inner child is
accustomed to struggling with money.
It’s what she knew growing up, so it’s
comfortable. In her little mind, it’s the
best! She doesn’t have to take the risk of
owning a business or even learning how
to live as someone with more money. She
doesn’t have to stretch her self-worth to
accommodate the kind of empowerment that
greater wealth would bring. To that young
girl inside, the underlying commitment to
avoid her finances has a whole host of
great benefits. To the adult you, though, that
underlying commitment could be the bane
of your existence.
Can you see the secret in all of this? We are
always creating exactly the reality we’re
most committed to having. It doesn’t
matter what we say we want. If we don’t
have the thing we desire, it’s because we’re
more committed to our present state than
we are to getting what we want. I know—
yuck! I felt the same way when I first got this.
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Our underlying commitments are our first
and strongest commitments because they
were formed when we were so young and
vulnerable and impressionable.
What Do Underlying
Commitments Sound Like?
To help you figure out your own underlying
commitments, let’s look at what they often
sound like compared to what we think we’re
committed to. As you can see, your desire
and your underlying commitment may not
be directly related to one another!
“I think I’m committed to becoming a public
speaker.”
Underlying commitment: “I’m committed
to staying small so that I won’t be called
stupid.”
“I think I want to start my own business.”
Underlying commitment: “I’m committed to
controlling everything so I feel safe, and
having my own business feels very out of
control.”
“I think I’m committed to becoming an artist.”
Underlying commitment: “I’m committed to
being an accountant because that’s what my
father was, and he died when I was young.
I’ll dishonor him if I do something else.”
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