Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2016 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 30

lamp. But a lamp must be plugged in for it to shed any light. With every prayer, we plug in to the light. With every realization of our mistakes and willingness to atone for them, we plug in to the light. With every apology we give and receive, we plug in to the light. With every act of forgiveness, we plug in to the light. With every five minutes of meditation, we plug in to the light. With every thought of mercy, we plug in to the light. With every moment of faith, we plug in to the light. The search for God is a search for light, and outside that light we are sorrowful indeed. Within it, we are healed and made whole. FALLING INTO A DEEP, DARK VALLEY I know something about suffering, as twice I’ve been diagnosed as clinically depressed. I’ve also experienced personal tragedy and the deaths of loved ones. I’ve suffered through devastating betrayals and disappointments. I’ve felt on more than one occasion that I had lost any chance of happiness I might have ever had. I’ve been up close and personal with suffering, not only in my own life, but also in the lives of many others in the course of my career. Nothing gives you x-ray vision into the suffering of others like having suffered yourself. I know the face of depression and I know it well. As someone who has always viewed things through a mystical lens—even before I really understood what that meant—I’ve always seen events in my life in the context of a spiritual journey. I’ve viewed painful times in my life as part of a mysterious unfolding, as dark nights of my soul for which, no 30 matter how devastating, I needed to be fully present. However deep my suffering, I didn’t want to be anesthetized as I went through it. Like an expectant mother who wants to give birth naturally, rejecting drugs during labor because she wants to experience “natural childbirth,” I wanted to be fully available to the depths of my pain. Why? Because I knew it had something to teach me. I knew that somehow, in some way, my suffering would lead to a blazing new dawn in my life—but only if I was willing to endure the deep, dark night preceding it. None of this is to romanticize suffering. Sleepless nights, obsessive thoughts, extreme mental and emotional pain are nothing to view lightly. But my journeys through deep sadness have ultimately shown www.AspireMAG.net | August / September 2016