Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Apr/May 2018 Aspire Magazine Full Issue | Page 79
Foundation #1:
Most people don’t realize that this
includes all stories. It can be an amazing
story or a devastating story. Sometimes
we think that if we share good news it’s
not considered gossip.
Visualize a time when you had something
amazing happen in your life. You were
excited and you couldn’t wait to tell a friend
or family member. The moment arrived and
you started to tell them your amazing news
and you found out they already knew.
How did this make you feel? Did you feel
disappointment because you didn’t get to
experience the joy of sharing the excitement
with that person? Although, the person that
shared your story was excited for you and had
great intentions, it wasn’t their story to tell.
Alternatively, you could be involved in a
situation that you trusted someone and told
them something in confidence. Sadly, you
found out they betrayed you and told other
people your story.
Likewise, you could find out that other people
have been talking about you. Anyone that has
experienced this situation knows what it feels
like. You feel extremely betrayed and upset
that other people are talking about you when
you weren’t there to tell your own story.
Another scenario that everyone has
experienced: Someone asks you if one of
your friends or a family member is dating
When you are asked about another
person or you find yourself starting to
share this information–take a moment
and think to yourself, and then reply, “It’s
not my story to tell.”
Equally important, don’t share your personal
story with people that haven’t earned the
right to hear your story.
“Share your story
with people that have
earned the right to
hear your story and
that can bare the
weight of the story.”
– BRENÉ BROWN
One of my favorite quotes is by Brené
Brown: “Share your story with people that
have earned the right to hear your story and
that can bare the weight of the story.”
If you share your story with the wrong person,
you are going to experience responses that
are not in alignment and helpful to you.
Consequently, this can cause you to feel
upset and anxious. It can be extremely
harmful to your well-being and overall
process of dealing with your emotions.
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Don’t Share Other People’s Stories
– “It’s Not Your Story to Tell.”
someone new, on a diet, feeling depressed,
pregnant, recently diagnosed with an illness,
getting a divorce, etc. It can be a question
that you feel is harmless to answer.