2. When you are both calm, that’ s the time to discuss the boundaries you want to put in place.
3. Approach a boundary discussion with your coparent from the position of what you want, need, and expect— not what you don’ t want from them.
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2. When you are both calm, that’ s the time to discuss the boundaries you want to put in place.
The worst time to establish a boundary is in retaliation for something that was said or because you disagree with the way you have been treated. Boundaries are put in place to prevent angry exchanges. In other words, it’ s not“ Don’ t talk to me like that!” It’ s“ We agreed we would both talk to each other respectfully. Now let’ s put our heads together and figure this out for our child.”
3. Approach a boundary discussion with your coparent from the position of what you want, need, and expect— not what you don’ t want from them.
For example,“ You never text me back!” becomes“ Please text me back within 24 hours.” Or, even,“ It would be helpful if you returned my text within 24 hours.
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